I always wanted to be a nurse. To be someone that could be Jesus to people in their darkest moments, whether it be cancer, failing organs, surgeries, strokes, psychiatric issues, etc. But if I am being honest, I am way less of a light than I ought to be sometimes. I have such a hard time with “those patients” that seem like they’re determined to be dissatisfied no matter what you do or offer to do for them. “Those patients” that clearly don’t want to be in the hospital but are there on their own accord. I have found I really struggle with being compassionate to some people.
Lately I have been so convicted of my own need to complain and my critical mindset. How can I glorify God through my bad attitude and my pride? How can I really care for people when they’re at their worst if I self-determine that their worst isn’t bad enough? And really, what satisfaction will I really get in the long run for getting my way that one time? Exactly.
But even while working on a better attitude, I started feeling like I wasn’t equipped to care for people where I am at. I started feeling like the work I was doing was fruitful or really making a difference in someone’s overall care or quality of life.
Then there was 179.
Here at the hospital for two weeks because of a firing defibrillator, this patient hated every single person that has stepped foot into his room. He yelled at the physical therapists, screamed racial slurs to the doctors, adamantly refused IV access and medications on several occasions, told the nurses they were in his room way too long after ten minutes…and he even listed profanities at me when I woke him up for his insulin. His quality of life was questionable, what with his failing kidneys post-transplant, heart failure, weakness, and non-compliance.
But for some reason, he tolerated me. I won’t dare say he liked me, because we definitely had some tension one of the first nights I spent with him. But he trusted me. He refused medications except for when I offered them. He allowed me to change the PICC dressing that was a week old when he yelled at anyone else who even offered. He listened to me. He even joked with me, and smiled!
To most people, this probably seems insignificant. He probably won’t think about me ever again when he is discharged. Really, in the grand scheme of things, this is but a small blip in the realm of patient care and existence. But to me, it mattered. Why? Because whatever walls this patient had up came down when I walked into the room, and I would like to think that it made his care and health just a tad better.
Before this post becomes about my own accomplishments, I want to make my point. By no means was this of my own doing. I am not nicer, more compassionate, more patient, etc. than any other nurse on my unit. Let me be clear: this is all God. This patient technically had no reason to even be on our unit based on his needs. But I know that God placed him here when He did because it was going to stretch me, and to glorify Himself of course. When I found out I was getting this patient, I complained for hours that he didn’t belong here and I didn’t feel equipped to care for him. Hah. How could I forget that God gives us things we aren’t equipped to do on purpose, so we depend on Him.
I am so humbled to have been able to care for this man, to enter into his darkness of loneliness and declining health. I am humbled that I was chosen to be the one nurse he trusted. I don’t know why it was me. But I am glad it was me. Because even if he never thinks about me another day in his life, I will never forget him, and I will never stop praying for him to know Jesus’ love before he leaves this world.